Posts by Thinking of Leaving

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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday

by Thinking of Leaving in

the elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.

the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".

i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.

Thinking of Leaving

Hi Moshe, I really do feel free, it was such a burden to attend the meetings and the conventions as you say just bored me. I can't imagine what it was like going to a 7 day convention, that would of been brutal. I feel like my life is just beginning and I can't wait to see what the future holds

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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday

by Thinking of Leaving in

the elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.

the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".

i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.

Thinking of Leaving

wow, you guys are great! Minimus I was DF for immorality

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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday

by Thinking of Leaving in

the elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.

the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".

i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.

Thinking of Leaving

It's not that easy on the way out, she sends me emails special articles about JW's, experiences and so on, she comes and tells me of the latest gossip about people we both know. I think I have to tell her, the other day she asked me how many were at the memorial and when our assembly is, I didn't go to the memorial this year and do not know when the assembly is/was, I don't want those ackward moments to repeat themselves, know what I mean?

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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday

by Thinking of Leaving in

the elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.

the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".

i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.

Thinking of Leaving

Now the hard part, how do I tell my co-worker, who is a JW, that I'm going to be DF sighhhhh, I think she will be very surprised

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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday

by Thinking of Leaving in

the elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.

the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".

i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.

Thinking of Leaving

well actually, they called the house a few times, I never answered the phone, they left messages and I never returned their calls. They set up a judicial committee and I never went to the meeting. So they came to the house on Saturday morning (ofcourse they were out on service) and asked to speak with me. Normally I work Saturday mornings, but this Sat. I didn't. They have probably been driving by for weeks looking for my car. They happened to see it parked in front of the house and rang the bell. They asked to speak with me, my sister came and told me, I told her I don't want to see them. She went and relayed the message and they told her "tell her they just want one minute of her time", she came again to me (this time very angry with me for not speaking with them) and I told her I am not going to talk to them. That's when they gave her the message.

I guess I was selfish and let my sister, who isn't a JW, do the dirty work. She got over it anyhow and wasn't as angry as I thought. I just couldn't bare the thought of seeing them. This is hard. I saw one of my good friends, a JW, in the grocery store on Saturday and she waved at me, barely acknowledged me and I saw another "sister" and I told her about going to be DF. I looked at her and she had tears in her eyes. I guess I should be the one shedding tears for her, she's suffered from depression for years being in this religion. Most of the "sisters" from my hall were depressed. And to top it off, I heard the first guy I ever loved got engaged....what a weekend

Thanks for your comments and encouragement everyone. I am beginning to taste that freedom and it feels heavenly!

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I'm going to be disfellowshipped on Wednesday

by Thinking of Leaving in

the elders cames to my home on saturday and i didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message.

the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting".

i knew it was coming...but it feels so weird.

Thinking of Leaving

the elders cames to my home on Saturday and I didn't answer the door, so they told my sister to relay the message

the message was "you know what it's about, we're going to make the announcement next meeting"

I knew it was coming...but it feels so weird

Didn't have a great weekend after that.

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Social Anxiety Disorders

by Thinking of Leaving in

hi everyone, the guy i'm currently dating suffers from social phobia and it's beginning to affect our relationship.

does anyone have any experience dealing with this?

i have to admit this is all new to me, most of the guys i've dated are pretty normal, but this one seems to need some extra care.

Thinking of Leaving

thanks so much for responding, I really feel for him and want to help but sometimes he just clams up so much, I can't say or do anything that is going to make him better. If you don't mind, can you tell me if it was hard for your boyfriend to communicate his feelings? or was he just socially anxious when meeting your friends/relatives? what were some of his warped views? thanks

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Social Anxiety Disorders

by Thinking of Leaving in

hi everyone, the guy i'm currently dating suffers from social phobia and it's beginning to affect our relationship.

does anyone have any experience dealing with this?

i have to admit this is all new to me, most of the guys i've dated are pretty normal, but this one seems to need some extra care.

Thinking of Leaving

thanks so much for responding, I really feel for him and want to help but sometimes he just clams up so much, I can't say or do anything that is going to make him better. If you don't mind, can you tell me if it was hard for your boyfriend to communicate his feelings? or was he just socially anxious when meeting your friends/relatives? what were some of his warped views?

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Social Anxiety Disorders

by Thinking of Leaving in

hi everyone, the guy i'm currently dating suffers from social phobia and it's beginning to affect our relationship.

does anyone have any experience dealing with this?

i have to admit this is all new to me, most of the guys i've dated are pretty normal, but this one seems to need some extra care.

Thinking of Leaving

thanks so much for responding, I really feel for him and want to help but sometimes he just clams up so much, I can't say or do anything that is going to make him better. If you don't mind, can you tell me if it was hard for your boyfriend to communicate his feelings? or was he just socially anxious when meeting your friends/relatives? what were some of his warped views?

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Welcome New Ones To The Forum

by Quandry in

sometimes i don't have time to look at all the new posts, and i miss some of the new posters, like king tut and others.

if you are new here, i just wanted to say welcome to the forum.

it is always great to have new ones and read your stories.

Thinking of Leaving

hey I'm kind of new, thanks for the warm welcome